Hi! I’m TJ.💙
I believe a kept promise to yourself is one of the most sacred things a woman can offer herself in midlife.
Over a year ago, I made a promise to myself that I'd been putting off for two decades — I started going by the name TJ, instead of Tamara, the name I’d had for my whole lifetime before.
It sounds small. It wasn't.
It became proof that my word to myself actually meant something. I wrote the whole story here.
I'm in my 50s now. Married to my best friend. Two kids who've grown and gone, and a life on the other side of that that I didn't expect to love this much — concerts, ball games, slow mornings with coffee, soft blankets in winter, puzzles and music almost always somewhere in the background.
This isn't the "best life" version of me performing for anyone.
It's what's here when a woman finally keeps her promises to herself.
If any part of you felt something reading this, like a flicker of recognition or a small ache of wanting, that’s worth following with curiosity. That's the part of you this work is for.
My path here started on the yoga mat, not in a coaching certification.
Over a decade, I trained as a yoga teacher, a therapeutic life mentor, and an IAYT-certified yoga therapist - learning, over and over, in my own body first, that I couldn't guide anyone toward self-compassion I hadn't practiced on myself.
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What it costs to override what my body is telling me.
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What it feels like, finally, to listen.
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That self-care isn't a reward for good behavior; it's a necessity for being able to wholeheartedly give to others without a side of resentment.
Coaching found me later, through Beautiful You Coaching Academy, not as a new direction, but as a way to finally offer other women what that decade had been teaching me about myself.
If this resonated, I'd love to stay in touch.​
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Curated to help you build a stronger relationship with yourself.
I don't come to this work with it all figured out. I come to it knowing what it costs to abandon yourself, and what it feels like to be welcomed home again.
That’s why I find it so rewarding to work with women in their 50s who have spent decades showing up fully for everyone else and are now realizing they never showed up quite that fully for themselves. Those standing in a quieter house, asking what about me? To help them come home to their own body, their own voice, their own worth.
My work is built on four things I hold sacred: Devotion, Truth, Embodiment, Becoming. I believe these are key pieces in returning to yourself and in building a strong relationship with yourself. The relationship you have with yourself becomes the blueprint for every other relationship in your life.
When you know your own worth, you stop making room for anything that treats you as less.
That's when self-trust kicks in.
You know when to let go of what isn't working. You know when a risk is worth taking. You know when you need support instead of white knuckling it alone. You know when something is worth fighting for, and you don't second-guess yourself into silence.
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​​You step down from the committee that once lit you up because it has become a source of dread and drains your energy instead of stoking your passion. With a racing heart and butterflies in your belly you sign up for the dance class you’ve been wanting to take for years but kept telling yourself you were too old. You pick up the phone and tell a friend, "I'm not okay," instead of insisting you've got it handled. You may know it's time to change the way you show up in your marriage, to say what you need instead of hoping it gets noticed, so you start the conversation you’ve been avoiding for weeks (or months) but have been rehearsing for nearly as long.
Ready to see what's possible?
No pressure, no obligation, no sales pitch.
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Click the button above to be taken directly to my Contact Form on my Connect page, where you can send an introduction, request for the Pre-Coaching Questionnaire and anything you wish for me to know at this time.
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If requesting the questionnaire feels like a bigger step than you are ready to take at this moment, I invite you to download my free body wisdom meditation. It’s designed to help you slow down, connect to your body and experience a bit of what working with me could be like.
Professional background & qualifications that influence how I coach
Certified Beautiful You Life Coach (Beautiful You Coaching Academy)
IAYT-Certified Yoga Therapist (Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy) (2019-2022)
Yoga Therapist (Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy) (2018-2022)
Therapeutic Life Mentor (Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy) (2017-2022)
Yoga Teacher Training – 300 hour (Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy) (2016-2022)
Relax & Renew Trainer – Restorative Yoga (Judith Hanson Lasater) (2011)
Yoga Teacher – 200 hour (One Tree Yoga) (2011)
